Why The Parenting Architect?
We support you to make the radical shift from correction and protection to deep connection.
Parenting in the 21st century can be scary.
We love our kids, and we want them to grow into self-sufficient, happy and balanced adults.
Yet, societal trends are disturbing: with suicide and depression rates rising amongst youth, social media use sky rocketing amongst children and teens, and deep family connection declining due to all that we ourselves as parents are juggling, it can feel that we are leaving our children to be raised by the forces of culture and society.
Naturally, we worry.
Will they have the resilience and the inner compass that they need to navigate the globalized and complex world that they are facing?
Punishing our kids for their bad choices doesn’t work in the long run, and we can’t protect them from the many unforeseen challenges that they will face in this brave new world.
Research shows that more than gold stars, timeouts, lectures and grounding, connection with our children builds their self esteem, supports them in solving their own problems, and equips them with the skills and resources that they need to chart their own course as they move toward adulthood.
We know that you want the best for your child, and we know that you also have a very full plate of commitments outside of the home!
How can you possibly fulfill your own needs and those of your child?
Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be either/or! We don’t have to choose between our children’s thriving and our own!
What Do We Do?
We offer proven strategies and tools that will support you to form an unshakable bond with your child. The power of the connection that you create with your child is what will carry you both through the most difficult and demanding experiences that you will face together.
We support you in building the structures and frameworks that you need to create a sense of flow and ease in your home, promote your family’s thriving, and bulletproof your child from the many distractions and struggles that they will face.
It All Begins With Connection.
The world needs the leader that your child is becoming, and your role in their development is key.
What Are the Benefits?
- Your child will begin to identify with and strive toward their higher potential.
- Your child will learn to express their true, authentic self in ways that uplift others.
- You will experience flow within your home, even during key life transitions.
- Your family will experience more laughter, deeper trust and more fun.
You will actually get to enjoy parenting your child!
Who Am I and Why I Am Amongst the Best in My Field?
I am a busy parent just like you who adores my child and wants nothing more than to see him healthy, happy and thriving!
I founded The Parenting Architect after 20 years working in the field of child and adolescent development. Parenting through several of my own high demand situations, as well as in my work with kids, I discovered the tools and strategies that I now offer to parents who are yearning to create a home life that fulfills and uplifts the entire family, complete with deep and energizing connectedness! As a sought-after coach, writer, speaker and researcher in the area of thriving families, I develop highly-individualised and engaging curricula that integrate a focus on personal wellbeing and the use of transformational tools to create the necessary shifts for the deep child and parent connections that pave the way for joy.
I am a certified Parenting Coach with The Aware Parenting Institute, a member of the prestigious Youth Workers Association and a regular contributor for Mensa publications. I facilitate groups with the Gifted Homeschoolers Forum and MAMA and have appeared on the Aware Parenting Podcast with Marion Rose, PhD.
I take a holistic approach to family thriving and am a qualified yoga therapist and meditation instructor with over 10 years of experience, and hold a special focus on the role of nutrition in child behavior. I have seen first hand the causal link between mood and food through my extensive research with young offenders. I can work closely with allied health professionals, nutritionists and doctors practicing functional medicine in creating a plan for family thriving that is catered to your individual family’s needs.
I have advised clients from around the world, including top athletes, world champions and Olympians, on improving their performance — as parents!
I believe in the inherent goodness of all children, and I believe that with the right support and guidance your child can thrive — and so can you!
Wondering About Our Services?
- We offer tailored one-on-one coaching packages and half-day immersive experiences.
- We liaise with mental health professionals and allied health professionals.
- We offer practical, workable strategies and recommendations that will help you shift underlying patterns for good.
Whilst all packages are co created with you with the individual needs of your family in mind, a standard coaching package will encompass;
1. VISCERAL LISTENING
Experience first hand the depth-level, visceral listening skills necessary for your child to feel seen and heard, so they do not need to seek validation outside of themselves or the family home.
Your child will develop emotional dexterity and will be more readily able to center in their natural state: relaxed, cooperative, collaborative and naturally seeking to contribute.
We coach you on simple yet profoundly-effective strategies to ensure your child has this fundamental need met by you with reliability and consistency.
2. PURPOSEFUL PLAY
Specifically designed and games are proven in processing emotions in real time and can be utilised as both preventative and reparative. Adapted across the ages groups, we will prescribe play to preempt breakdowns through preparing your child to navigate difficult life situations like a pro.
Using Purposeful Play to deepen your connection with your child, you will also learn to navigate those “less than wonderful” parenting moments that we all experience! You will learn to make amends during “parenting breakdowns” using the child’s own language of play so that they can maintain their trust in you, and in themselves.
The Parenting Architect coaches in 9 distinct styles that cover every imaginable scenario. Don’t worry, you don’t have to learn them all! Working together, we will uncover 2-3 key areas of focus, so that you can nail the need every time. You will build a toolbox of simple-yet-powerful “go to” games that fit seamlessly into your existing schedule and grow with you as your family grows.
3. RADICAL TRUTH
Create a non-dramatic container for the expression of radical truths. The Parenting Architect knows that all the play in the world can never substitute for the delivery of clear and accurate information. You will learn to communicate with your child in a way that aligns with your family’s values and increases trust, while reducing friction. Need support in clarifying your family’s values? We’ll work with you to bring this forward as well!
As you expand your ability to hold your own emotions during big conversations, you will create space for your child to take responsibility for theirs as well. You will learn to establish yourself as an authoritative presence in your family, and become your child’s “go to” person when they have a question or need information.
Our coaching model empowers you to step into true and accountable leadership in your family, to the benefit of you and your child.
What Results Can I Expect?
Through working with The Parenting Architect, you and your child will experience:
— fewer dramatic outbursts
— less compulsive and obsessive behaviour
— less whining and fewer demands
— more contentment
— more self-led learning/play
— more generosity
— more self-generative creativity
— more impromptu affection
The Parenting Architect offers you the tools that you and your child need to navigate peer pressure, conflicts at school, friendship dilemmas, social drama, and difficult or unexpected life situations.
What Are You Waiting For?
The best time to start is yesterday, the second best time is right now.
Imagine populating your child with the inner resources necessary to truly flourish and thrive in our changed landscape, no matter what!
What would it take for you to fully show up in support of your child’s highest potential?
Here’s a direct link to my calendar to book a complimentary call. We will unpack your greatest parenting challenge, and you’ll be given some immediate actionable tools. Together we can get clear if we are a good fit to work together going forward. I am excited to be in service to the needs of you and your family.
“I would not give a fig for the simplicity on this side of complexity, but I would give my life for the simplicity on the other side of complexity.”
~ Oliver Wendell Holmes.
“Pain pushes until vision pulls.”
~ Rev. Michael Bernard Beckwoth
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